You are right..I’m an ACOA. My dad was a heavy drinker to the point he would binge. So this is a real trigger for me. I have told him what I went through but since he isn’t to that extreme, he doesn’t see it. I read a good article on detachment. It doesn’t mean I don’t love him, but it means I am not going to laugh or make jokes about his drunken nights, and act like this is normal behavior. Where will his buddies be when he falls? Bet they won’t be around.