Omers, is it possible he was more surprised than shocked to see such a strong side to you?

I'm guessing there's a religious/cultural subtext that your t understands that means that it's unusual for a someone (especially a woman?) to stand up to an elder, especially to provide correction on a spiritual belief that would make this extra surprising.

I know I wasn't there to get the fullness of the story and the interaction, and I am a completely separate person from your t, but in the context of that story, shame isn't what comes to my mind. I read bravery in your willingness to speak up for what you believe, and your compassion and care for the other person. So it's possible shame and disrespect aren't the lens he's viewing your story through, maybe?