Please allow me another post?

Sometimes even - especially - when what we are saying is correct, the person hearing it isn't really receiving the full message. Most ppl who are confronted are immediately, automatically, put on the defensive... and once they make a stand, it's tougher for them to backtrack. That, to me, shows the advantage of putting words in writing.

When we put words into writing, we have time to reread and edit... leave it a bit and come back with another perspective. When we receive something in writing, we have time to, by ourselves, react... reread,.. absorb... and maybe even find the true intent of the writing. We can allow ourselves to accept some or all of it, finding words of reply that fit without demeaning ourselves, and maintaining our sense of dignity.