When I am feeling bad about the way my life turned out, I find that I need to stay away from FB. FB does give me a notification when I get a direct message from a friend. I am on there so that if I ever want to visit one of my HS friends (one was my college roommate ) from more than 35 years ago, I have a way to get ahold of them.

Your college room mate might (years from now) eventually reconnect.

When I first got married, my previous friendships mean a lot to me in my heart but I had filled my life with too many activities and the distance (I was in Japan, they were in the US) between us was a real issue.

The ghosting and defriending is probably NOT about you. Also, I have come to believe that when we share REALLY intimate things with someone who listens, whether online or in really life--that sharing can cause us to feel attached. I feel like since I am married, I owe it to my H to be careful about becoming to emotionally attached to others--especially men. I am learning to try not to share TMI on here. Though I still sometimes do when I am struggling. Sorry, you are struggling internally. I see it in your posts.....