I've got a high libido. My wife has a low libido, that's the libido mismatch. In essence, I'm stuck in a sexless marriage. I went into grief counseling and found myself talking about what is really bothering me, the dead bedroom. Apparently

I was using sex as a antidote for depression and since my wife wasn't available, the anxiety and sexual frustration was taking it's toll. My counselor recommended masturbation as a coping mechanism but due to an early catholic school indoctrination, my belief system established masturbation as a sin.

I found myself stuck between a rock and a hard place. Suffer through abstinence or self pleasure with shame and guilt.

Has anyone else been through this too?

Any advice you can offer?