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Originally Posted by mf1438
She had some surgery before I met her due to cervical cancer and she has never had an orgasm. Believe me when I say I have tried, but it has never come to pass, no matter how much effort I put into it. Plus, since menopause, she is never in the mood. And yes, talking about sex is important when you’re married, but it’s impossible when someone doesn’t want to talk about sex. Because I have an inherent fear of rejection due to childhood trauma, it’s easier for me to talk about it online than it is to talk about it IRL.
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This explains a lot.
I am sad for both of you about this.
Sometimes I do things for my H even when I am not in the mood because I love him though, of course, I would do that much less if I also didn't like sex myself. I can appreciate his needs better because sometimes I feel needy too. A very tough situation.
I think you can get over some of your guilt about sex by yourself just talking about it here and trying. Some things can improve with time and by just talking.
