There must be a long list of options. The big D was the first one I heard. Taking medicine to give her more libido. Taking medicine to give me less libido. Conversation. Counseling. Prayer. Intentional Intimacy. Patience. Cuddles. Back massages. The list goes on and on. I'm a project manager by trade. I'm looking to cope in a way that takes her off of the critical path. But I don't want to cut off my nose to spite my face. Some solutions can start to become problems in and of themselves. That's why divorce is not an option for me.