When I asked that last question of you? I began to think about the ONE person that made my hospital stay close to Thanksgiving last year managable. I have ptsd and have experienced a lot of medical health traumas and was treated badly so I don't really care for hospitals. This one African American woman had the presence that was such a comfort to me. She noticed I was drinking ginerale and she immediate checked to make sure I had fresh ones on my hospital tray table. Her entire presence was respectful and caring. I did not get a chance to let her know how much her presence HELPED me during the few days I was so ill with pneumonia in that hospital with people poking at me like I was just a thing they had to deal with in their job.

I would have to say for myself, there are certain people that have a caring respectful presence about them that help me feel safe and relaxed.

The people I don't care for are the ones that are intrusive and don't have a respectfulness about them. Those are usually the kind of people who "I have to have this and that and that, otherwise it's a waste of time for me" kind of attitude about things. I don't care for people that are the "tell you what to do" kind of people either. They have a presence that stands over and talks down to, needs to have the authority over and don't even realize how critical they are either. They are not usually a caring type person but are in a hurry and brisk and too matter of fact. They don't even realize how critical they are either.

It's important to know what "kind" of person you like. When I thought about that, I thought about that woman I met in the hospital, she understood "how to respect personal space and how not to be intrusive". Some people just have that quality about them. I have wanted to find out what floor I was on and see if I can ask and find out who that woman was and when she is on too so I can somehow tell her how important her presence was to me. Ugh, I was just so sick I went into that hospital in an ambulance and I can't even remember what floor I was on because even though I was well enough to go home I was still very sick and did not feel better for a couple of weeks.