I had the same thing happen. There’s this one program in my area that does IOP and PHP. I tried to call for an appointment last year and when I said I was suicidal and had self harmed, they said I would be doing the DBT program. I argued, saying I have already done DBT and it doesn’t help me but they said because if the self harm and suicidality they wouldn’t consider placing me anywhere else. I was so pissed off. More recently, I tried out a new pdoc and he dx’ed me as having borderline personality disorder, despite not having any other symptoms of bod. I felt insulted, especially because I am a woman. I wondered if he would have dx’ed a man as borderline. I didn’t go back to him.

I would look for a new pdoc but that’s just me.