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Originally Posted by DP_2017
Summer
I've been away from PC I came here to post about my session today and saw this. I think this is common, therapists often find clients they feel they could be friends with. The rules, as sucky as they are, don't make it so (at least not for some time after termination if anything) and it's common for clients to be confused about it
What I would say is... it's a good thing he thinks this. It means he feels a good connection with you. I think he believes you are capable of great friendships with others. I struggle a lot with this right now. Some may say I'm "lucky" because my T is very open 2 two years but I say I am not better off than anyone else. So much can change then, he may not care, we may not click anymore.... things may never come and it could all be over forever for me. It has caused a lot of anxiety.
I wish I lived closer to you, I'd love to meet up and chill. You have been a good friend to me online, for what it's worth.
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Thank you DP! I wish we lived closer also. But I also like driving so there’s that [emoji23]
Yeah, even though your t said he’s open to it, I can see how it’d still be really hard. 2 years can feel long in the moment. I just don’t know how to feel about what he said because I had no idea that he even felt like that.
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Originally Posted by Echos Myron redux
This sounds very similar to a few things my T has said to me Like "if we had met in another context i think we could have been great mates" (meaning friends) and some other things too. I understand it feeling a bit weird. It's also really nice for me, because he's found a way to be authentic and true to his feelings while still making me feel 100% safe and secure he would never cross any boundaries. It's something that makes me feel safe and secure in the relationship.
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This is kinda funny because while I was writing it out, I thought it reminded me of the dynamic between you and your T. Which I feel creepy saying lol because I don’t post a ton, but I read a lot. I’m hoping it’ll increase feelings of security in me eventually. I think it probably will but I was just really surprised if he was in fact being genuine.
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Originally Posted by downandlonely
@ SummerTime12 it almost sounds like your therapist was flirting. Did it feel that way to you or am I reading it wrong? |
I totally get where it could sound that way. I think I might’ve wondered about that also if it hadn’t been for some conversations we’ve had before. I’ve told him I’m attracted to him and he’s remained professional and talked about how we will have a safe relationship, it’s possible to have a relationship with a man where it doesn’t turn into sex, it’s possible to care about someone without being attracted to them, etc. (those are all thugs I struggle to believe can happen for me).