Mar 29, 2019 at 06:17 PM
T told me his 3 yr old pulled a chair up, climbed on the counter and emptied the spice cabinet and he made him clean it up. Now I know this would not be anything incredible to anyone but to me my heart was heavy because if I was 3 and did that my mother would have beat the crap out of me, screamed at me leaving me to try and navigate the painful emotions on my own to fester into what I have become.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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