OK - Ladies - Please bare with Me as I try to explain this in the best way I can......

I personally feel that way to many females are being attack rather than helped / supported when they come here seeking advice and friendly counseling....... when a female has been through nothing but pure hell and sexual torture by the hands of men since the day she learned to walk and wear panties she will with a doubt have many ill feelings toward most of the males that have walked this earth...... and while her thoughts may not be rational per say - you must realize and some times even accept that they are the only views she has even known, therefore, she does not need to be criticized for the feelings she fought her own diminishing sanity to express - BUT rather she needs to be given the room the VENT and SHARE with out fear of being harassed or put under once again.

And while I understand that many of you may have never been through such horror, therefore, you cannot truly begin to understand where she is coming from and why she thinks the way she does....... you must still give her room to express her anger and hate as she will not be able to heal until she has began to release some of the evil that was put in her by another whose only goal was to take from her.

It is thru the release (venting / talking) that so many females HEAL.... and with healing CHANGE begins.

<font color="purple"> Please keep in mind when you are reading a "female hate male thread" that if you refute the OP opinion or have nothing positive to say that will support and not damage her more - then Please DO NOT necessarily respond... as this is the kindest thing you can offer. </font>

I feel as though I can say the things I have as I was once the female that was attacked for sharing the feelings she once held onto so tightly toward MEN....... I felt as though I was attacked for sharing my feelings more than I was supported or helped (by some)...... Some refused to see my side of the fence as to why I felt the way I did and why I had good reasons to feel as I did - some so wanted me to love men (right then and there) instead of trying to help me heal the wounds that men had created in me.

<font color="purple"> BTW - one cannot help another heal by telling them why they are wrong, that their views are irrational per normal standards and that they need to grow up - as the damages person needs to heal first or change can never come, and it is with in that healing / forgiveness that changes can occur with in their wounded thoughts / mind. </font>

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My only desire now is for the day to come here on PC when all broken arrows can express their fears, their hates, their wounds from "their pov - their tortured past" without being scalded for the way they feel toward the opposite sex and where that they can VENT & SHARE as to seek HEALING...... and where they will NOT be attacked or destroyed.

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For the MEN reading this - Please be patient with any female that may express great hatred toward you guys, as most of them probably have a very good reason for the way they feel...... IF you doubt me then by all means read this: "my reasons"

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showf...t=1&PHPSESSID=

Good Men can help wounded females to see that not all men are evil and that some men can be SAFE.

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Thank you all for letting me express my self from both experience and as a friend of another wounded heart.



P.S.

IF you refute the OP opinion or have nothing positive to say - then Please DO NOT respond...
as this will be the kindest thing you can offer to this carefully thought out thread that was written as to educate.