Not much. During the week she's always asleep in the morning when I get the kids up for school, make their breakfasts and bagged lunches and get them off to the bus. When they get home, she's usually in our computer room with the door closed. I prepare and make dinner for the family after I come home from work, and I get the kids to do their chores. The kids and I eat together, and sometimes my wife will join us, but often she'll either skip dinner altogether or take a plate downstairs to the computer room. She stays in there throughout the evening while the kids play or watch TV. Later, I give my youngest daughter a bath and get her ready for bed, and often the only time she'll see her mom is when I send her downstairs to give her mom a kiss goodnight. On weekends it's much the same - she's in the computer room with the door closed while I clean house and spend time with my kids.

I've tried to talk to her about this, and I get one of two responses: <ul type="square">[*]first, when I tell try to explain that the kids are wondering why she's changed so much and why she's on the computer all the time, she gets upset, says I'm exaggerating, and ends the conversation.[*]second, if I do manage to get through to her in some small way, she promises to make more of an effort with the kids, but nothing ever comes from it, and nothing changes.[/list]...Y'know something? As I type, I find myself trying very hard not to use angry, insulting or exaggerated language about her. And it's much more difficult than it should be.