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Originally Posted by Bill3
Have you had over the years some non-emotional discussions with her about her trips home? What did you say and what did she say?
Have you met her family? If so, what do you think of them, and of her when she is with them?
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First off thank you for reading all of that.
Yes we have had multiple conversations about her trips home and how I feel about them. Some emotional and some non. She just shrugs it off and tells me she gave up her whole life and family to come live with me here and that these special occasions that I've mentioned are the only times they can be together at the same time so that I should pretty much just deal with it.
When she lived there she told me stories about her family barely ever wanting anything to do with her and how she's leave in a heartbeat and that all I had to do was ask. But its complete opposite now or something. I dont understand. I feel that all of a sudden that she's doing something with herself that now they're proud of her or maybe she lied the whole time.
I never forced her to move with me.
I have met her family and yeah I dont have anything against them or how she is when she's with them. I do think that she has told them things that make them not like me and conversations of when they came to visit I had briefly had the conversation that i would want certain things to be locked up and the kids to stay out of certain places of the house out of fear something being broke or stolen (kids are kids, I get it) but they took it as I called them all thieves....
Keep in mind the whole house and everything in it is mine and was mine and she came with what she could carry so I dont feel I was unreasonable for telling her my concerns. I feel she made the mistake of telling them and creating that awkwardness