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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Thank you, everyone! 
Yeah, maybe those two women ARE running from themselves? OR, the one who ghosted me just got too busy while working overseas? OR I had just been too needy of her and too heavy in my emails? And the one who got married decided it had been too long for us to not talk? OR she got married and decided to cut ties with all old friends?
I guess I will never know. I could sit here and guess endlessly, but the bottom line is I will never know so I will have to just be OK with that the fact that they no longer wish to be friends.
I AM struggling a bit internally, as was mentioned above. I've been hurt by many friendships in my life, especially when young, so this happening just resurfaces those old wounds.
It just sucks. And the work thing is less of a big deal. I can let that roll over.
Ugh. I have to get past this somehow and not let it hurt me so much! |
That's the problem with social media. I initially set up mine to keep in touch with friends and relatives whom I don't see, b/c they live out of my state.
I find that it's dangerous, b/c, it presents a distorted reality. People I meet, "friend" me on FB instantly, yet, they don't actually WANT to be my friend in real life.
I know how you feel, when you discover someone you have a history with, just deleted you. You think, "how the hell could someone I've known for 20 years just "delete" me like that, with NO explanation? It's happened to me, with three very good friends I'd known since college; each just deleted me without so much as an explanation and ignored my attempts to reach out to them by cellphone and email.
When people dump us, without telling us why, that speaks VOLUMES about their character, not ours. We didn't do anything and there's no point really agonizing over the "?" b/c we'll never know, since they've chosen to be disrespectful of that history we share, and just "ghost" us. It's brutal. But it shows what a shallow person they are; what a coward they are, for not taking into consideration a simple message of, "I'm leaving FB" or whatever to just show us that we matter to them. But we don't. People who ghost us, put us in their "option" category and there's nothing we can do. Humans ca be real a**h***s.
I have no friends in real life. I did at one point but somewhere along the line, I stopped socializing b/c people stopped accepting my invites to get together. So, I figure, why fight it? I"m certainly not going to change to make someone like me, so, what can I do, really.
I hope your motley crew and your fiance appreciate you in their lives. We all deserve to be loved and cared for.