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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66
So sorry. It is understandable how you are interpreting and feeling so down about this.
Please don't take this distancing though as a personal slight or even being your fault. Yes, people change.
Regarding the FB unfriending. Realise that no two people use Facebook in the same way. I personally use it only as a way of keeping in touch with close friends and family members - the very people I maintain close contact with in real life. That is just the way I am. And I regularly go through my own friends list to tweek it here and there in such manner that it is a close reflection of my off-line life. Those that I do otherwise wish to maintain a more sporadic contact with I keep to my occasional email list. That is just the way I am. Do you think it possible then that she have a similar viewpoint of how to use Facebook?
So the unfriending may be really of no consequence at all then. What then is the other evidence that she is removing you from her life? Is there evidence she is not?
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I agree with you about how people all use Facebook in their own way. I set mine up to as a pipeline to stay in contact with friends and family who are scattered everywhere. For ten years, I've been ghosted on by many so-called FB friends, and have deleted acquaintances whose profile sits stagnant on my FB wall, b/c they don't actually want to be friends with me in real life.
I debate deleting my FB profile daily, b/c it makes me depressed to see all my FB friends posting about their fabulous lives with their 4,000 Facebook friends; whereas I just post pop culture and news and funny memes on my FB wall, and rarely do I post something personal. I have one FB friend who posts multiple selfies a day, and has rejected my invites to get together multiple times, yet has time to get together with our mutual FB friends and posts photos of them going out without me on her FB wall. It's maddening.
At the end of the day, Facebook is not reality, but it is. What people post on their wall creates a false reality, a distorted reality. Yet, the reality is, people use Facebook to connect for business reasons, if they are an artist, musician, or whatever, to stay in touch with their fan base. Or, people use it to stay connected with friends and family.
I feel strange b/c I don't have 5,000 Facebook friends. I have less than 100. I don't know how people can create such a large social network offline, and online like that.