Thanks LabRat
I too have had bad experiences bringing a third person into session. I know my husband will be an ***, monopolize the session, buddying up to T while trying to make it look like it is about me and I will leave feeling like I was cheated out of my sacred time with T. T does mostly couples/family counseling though so he knows the dynamics. T has established a LOT of trust that in the context of this family I am his only concern and that will not change no matter what... So, I also doubt T would do couples work with us and don’t think H would do couples work with my T even if I could get H into couples therapy. I still think it would be beneficial for T to meet H more than anything. I also want to see what H would do when T tunes into me... would he learn from it or use it as an excuse to blow up... so... long story short I expect the session to be an absolute disaster but think there could be long term benefits... especially with what T could learn.