Thanks. It is interesting that you and your husband met online and have had a successful marriage. But that is because you both were invested equally, and made the effort to meet each other in person.

I feel like if you live in two different countries, a long distance relationship is not realistic unless you have the finances to fly back and forth a lot to see each other. It takes a lot of work.

But my point with my post, as you noted, is that both people need to be equally invested in the relationship for it to work. I don't think Grace's boyfriend was equally invested, or he wouldn't have suddenly needed to disappear online altogether. That is highly suspicious to me, that he deleted ALL of his presence online so that Grace can't find him online anymore. Someone who is genuine, doesn't do that. He would have had at least told Grace to call him to maintain their relationship.