It's a concern to me - someone you don't even know - but more importantly it should be a concern to you. No one knows you, or your needs at any given time, better than you do, and no one can act in your place, FOR you.

And yes, life is &%$# unfair, and no, you can't know what's around the corner. But yes, I think you're right, sometimes you just have to do SOMETHING, to shake things loose, to get your life moving again. Even if it turns out crappy. Then you can do something else. And so forth.

I think your idea about trying the VA is a good one if your friend is a veteran. It's a place to start, anyway.

XOXOXO