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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche
The same thing happened to me with a friend online. We met through a Facebook group, then I went to visit her and her husband in her city and we'd been friends for at least two years by that point. But, as soon as I leaned on her for emotional support while i went through a financial crisis, she up and deleted me from her Facebook; wouldn't return my phone call, or respond to my email. I didn't ask her for money, I just shared my fears about my financial straits at that time with her. So, I don't think she could handle it - or she didn't want to take that on, b/c it meant that our friendship was more than just two women having hilarious conversations with each other as pen pals online.
The fact that she didn't respect me enough after two years of friendship - especially when we met in person and hung out for a period of time together - really hurt my feelings. Not knowing why I suddenly lost value in her life as a friend b/c I leaned on her for support, will always bother me. Like, you, I need to get to the bottom of things in life. I don't like being left hanging, b/c there's no excuse reasonable enough FOR ME to justify doing that to someone. No excuse. Except that I will now think she's a total jerk and a coward.
I sometimes wonder if social media had never been invented, if people would treat each other this way? Just delete you, without any explanation.
People who make up excuses with me, as to why they can't hang out, is probably my biggest pet peeve in life. You can hang out, you just don't want to.
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Your story makes me think of the saying "fair weather friend". When you needed her, she disappeared. She was a fair weather friend only, which is a painful realization when you expect them to be otherwise... and that a deeper bond and sense of caring existed.
That's possibly what happened to the online friend who ghosted me. Perhaps she was a fair weather friend as well. I supported her mainly through her hardships, then when things got hard for me, she disappeared.
Some people are skin deep. It's sad, but true. I bet even without social media, people would be this way.
