You sure don't want to equate a person's worth with their popularity. All you have to do is consider that some very rotten people have been popular. I mean, look at history: Adolf Hitler was popular.

At the same time, I believe in considering feedback. If, during the last 2 years, 10 people told you that you were rude, then you might want to consider the possibility that they have a point. That's if they were 10 people you knew in differing contexts . . . not 10 people who all hang around together.

Sometimes a person might be upholding a decent value that has become undervalued. Getting back to Hitler: If you lived in Germany in 1942 and lots of people around you disliked you because you weren't a NAZI, you would have been in the position of possibly having heroic values. One can get carried away with that kind of thinking though. If you tell me that no one in your neighborhood likes you because your neighbors are all rotten people, I'm going to have my doubts about your claim. Most neighborhoods are a mix of a lot of different types of people, good and not so good.