I'm so sorry you're going through all of this, divine1966 I completely agree with what divine1966 has already wisely said better than I ever could. She has already gave you some great, wonderful advice. I completely agree with her that it could be relatedto his drinking. I also completely agree with your doubts that his therapist may not be too helpful to him. I'd suggest to talk to him about this and see how it goes from there. I know you've already tried it, but I'd suggest to try again if you can. Make him understand that you do want to work with him to get better and that it's not his fault if he has low libido, but that he needs to work on it! Hopefully he'll listen to what you have to say and understand you! I hope things will get better soon for you and for him! You deserve to live an happy life together and I hope you'll both be able to get through all fo this! Remember to take care of yourself as well and that you need to be respected by him! I have noticed that he doesn't always respects youtr opinion. I'd suggest to talk to him about that as well if you can and see how it goes from there. Love and respect are both very important aspects in every relationship and I think you may need to work on it if you don't feel loved or respected enough! You deserve to be loved and respected! Sending many hugs to you and to him, Gymgirl71! Please keep us updated and let us know how it goes!