It sounds like part of the problem might be that, when she called your pdoc, she acted like she didn't trust you. So it makes sense that you would be hurt and angry about this. Have you asked her why she didn't leave it to you to tell your pdoc, or talked to her about how this makes you feel? You have every right to be angry and ask for an explanation, but hopefully if you address the issue with her you can start to repair the damage.