I don't think the issue here is his libido. (Men who are drunk can't achieve an erection.)

I think the real issue here is: why do you want to date an alcoholic?

Someone who needs to drink alcohol every night until he falls asleep, doesn't have very good self-control, and is using alcohol to suppress their problems that they just refuse to address for themselves. He's lashing out at you, b/c you are the nearest convenient target. Your presence in his life, being his girlfriend, distracts him from the pain he feels about his own problems that he obv. doesn't want to deal with. So, he projects it on to you. Am I even close with my assumption about your relationship dynamic?

Use this time away from him to decide for yourself, what you want from a man. Do you want to date a man you have to 'fix' or take care of? Or, do you want to date a man who doesn't hide from his problems behind a bottle of alcohol?

• Alcoholics feel constantly criticized and fear being controlled.

• Don’t try to boss around an alcoholic.

• You can’t make somebody stop drinking. They have to want it for themselves. (Read that several times if you need to.)

• Your phone calls/texts/emails will go unanswered, unreturned and ignored if an alcoholic is overwhelmed, overworked or feels unappreciated.

• If an alcoholic cannot handle the topic of conversation, they will ignore it (and you).

• Alcoholics tend to be self-centered and self-obsessed and immature.

• Their egos are strong. Stronger than your best intentions.

• Alcoholics fear they are not going to live up to your fantasy of them.

• Alcoholics fear failure… a lot.

• Alcoholics pity themselves.

• Alcoholics make empty promises.

• Alcoholics lie, cheat & steal.

• And they will steal your heart, too

I'm in my late 40s and recently dealt with 2 men (one 57, one 48) who were 'fixer uppers' that tried to project on to me, what they wanted me to 'fix' in them. At first, I was overwhelmed by their attention, because it's nice to feel wanted. Then I realized what they were really doing, and backed away from each guy before I got sucked in too deep where I'd be in a role that required me to put my emotional needs aside, and tend to theirs all the time. No thanks. I deserve better. And so do you.