This kind of 'communication'...or should I say 'lack of' communication issue, is something that I have experienced in one or 2 previous relationships. I won't go into murky details, but over the years I have come to realise all too clearly that it wasn't that my ex partners disagreed with my opinions, preferences, grievances, or ideas...It was that I HAD opinions, preferences, grievances, and ideas.

I'm not saying all men, but certainly some men were raised in a family dynamic where the adult male made all the decisions, had all the great ideas, and chose for the family...in everything. Although these men genuinely love their partners, they don't see married partnerships as equal, they believe that their partners are there to serve them, agree with them and rely on them to make the best choices.

There are women who are quite content to go along with this status quo, finding fulfilment and successes through nurturing & raising their children, creating a home, and agreeing with/ supporting their partner.....But I am not one of those women.

Before you make the long term decision to marry this man and have his children, it is very important to discover exactly what type of family dynamic he is hoping to have, whilst ensuring there is room for you both to share in decision making, goals and fair work load.

I wish all the very best for you moving into your future with this man jaymoq.....but remember to have that all important talk.