Ok moms been staying on couch, decided to take in stray cats against my wishes but recently realized she causes me anxiety because I have been criticized my whole life I think she is taking advantage of me I really glad to have her help even though it is not much. On the other side she decided to keep 10 cats as pets getting old to give away still young not kittens now. The real problem is the way she treats me with the things she says. She absolutely has no respect for me crticizes everything especialy past issues not sorry about anything she has done wrong to get herself where she is now or ways she hurt me not to mention the times she lost her temper I remember as a toddler phisical attacks. She doesnt support me believes the other side when as a kid accused of wrongdoing. Stuck behind my brothers they were never bad, there is a gap when my first brother was born dad said he was the new hope son,and he knew he would make good grades not a dissapointment like me Mom never mentioned about the attention problems at school the exact diagnosis name I dont recall they wanted to give me stimulants im 60 on them now and trying to make up and do everything I can the next 20 years I would like to get to know mom better I thought wanted her to teach me to cook the thing she does good It doesn't seem possible she wont be around forever She says she never liked me and I believe it she doesnt believe in ADD and we just cant get along I have tried hard it is mentaly exhasting to try to not say the wrong thing. I WILL BE GOING TO ADHD FORUM but this is more of a comunication issue she pokes her head around the corner to inform of something but walks away before I can talk. 2 of her personal cats are sick they cant help it I step in it she says I was always too stupid to look where I walk that type of thing I think i need community support locally I have been keeping my eyes open for a freind new girlfreind anyone might help me stand up to her. I havent had a drink in years and dont abuse drugs or my medicine she never forgets the couple times years ago. I hear about the same past mistakes over and over By the way brothers were encouraged not to talk to me the youngest always did .What should I do?