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Originally Posted by susannahsays
It's interesting that you don't think he's giving you frequent reassurance. Maybe you just tend to write more about the reassurances he does give. I wonder what frequent reassurance would look like to you, and also if your pattern of reassurance seeking is not just anxiety, but more complicated, like an OCD behavior. When you talk about it, that's what comes to my mind.
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The article about reassurance vs support is really interesting! It would be interesting to dissect a real example. Also im reading the new book about procrastination and wondering how it ties into that. I believe i have the learned helplessness form of procrastination, that whatever you do, its never good enough, so eventually its why even try, it always blows up in your face. So its learning to tolerate that distress and do it anyway.
Eta - i dont see exactly how we could apply the reassurance vs support article to LT's situation of when her t said he was supporting her, when she said she felt he was palming her off to the addiction specialist. The criteria is reassuring things are going to be okay (bad) vs supporting feeling distress (good). She said she wanted his support, but was she really looking for reassurance? Is that it? Seems like a very fine line!