I'd get out. This just screams terrible to me too.

I understand that if you haven't yet told her you want a standing appointment, that you may not "own" that spot yet. But this seems so willy-nilly, especially after you adjusted your work schedule to work with her schedule.

The tearing up stuff would stress me out too. One of the things that I've realized over the last couple of Ts is that I (personally) need a T that feels "solid" - like they can handle my stuff without falling apart. It's really hard to find that though, surprisingly!

Good luck with it.