Things have been going great in my therapy then just brushed up against a topic related to a past rupture.

My T sometimes doesn't 'own' his stuff although he has done so from time to time. When things are from my transference, I am fine in working through the rupture as anything. And ruptures are nearly all from my own stuff. But in the rare occasion he lets his transferences get in the way, he doesn't own up to it.

In this case, this was a big thing. Other than that, I don't know why this is a deal breaker for me. It's not something I want to explore in therapy due to not wanting to engage in conversation about my reaction when he refuses to own his.

I'm curious why others may get upset when someone doesn't 'own' up to something. I know it's not uncommon and wonder why this is the case in terms of how others experience it.

I almost quit today but am going to take some time to think about this. Making rash decisions in my personal life is not new to me.

Any type/all responses are welcome in my thread.