“When he’s happy, we’re perfectly fine” Hmmm... Okay, when you are unhappy are you fine? A partnership is when both partners look at what makes their partner happy or unhappy and tries to tilt the relationship to happy.

That said, it sounds like his attitude is becoming “make me happy or there will be hell to pay!” ... and let me guess: it’s becoming more and more like that? And the man you started dating and who had such wonderful things to say about the future for the two of you, that man has disappeared— mostly—but reappears JUST ENOUGH to give you hope hope hope that you can get back to how wonderful it was at the beginning?

I think you deserve a partner who’s more consistently nice to you and listens to what makes you happy or unhappy without making you feel bad about speaking up about how you feel.