I have been dating a wonderful woman that I met through a personal ad for just over five months. She is a wonderful woman.... bright, attractive, passionate, sexy, funny, caring... she is everything that I wanted to find in a lover. She started dating me shortly after her husband moved out. At first I thought better of dating a woman "on the rebound", but I really wasn't looking to fall in love. Trouble is I DID fall in love with her, and she tells me that she loves me as well.

We both have two children each. She has a son 11 nad a daughter 9. I have a 17 year old son and 12 year old daughter. We have purposely not introduced each other to our kids. I won't do that until I know the relationship has some staying power. I realized for her kids they were still coping with the emotional trauma of their parents splitting up and I have not pushed meeting her kids, nor will I.

The problem came up this past weekend when I suggested to her that my summer schedule is very busy as my daughter plays tournament softball. Most weekends are filled with softball games and I never miss any of them. I suggested to her that by then it may be a good idea for us to be "more integrated" into each other's lives and that it would be great if she attended the games with me on occasion.

Well, she freaked out. And, it nearly was the end of the relationship. Still might be for that matter. I simply don't see the big deal in coming to a game as my friend. She wants no part of seeing or meeting my ex wife (we have been divorced for 5 years), or my daughter. Now granted I know this whole divorce thing is a bit new to her, but for the life of me I don't understand why this was such a huge issue for her. I asked her abouit and she said she is just not ready to integrate into each other's lives... it is too soon for her. Well, we have been dating over 5 months and I am good enough to go out with, talk on the phone, enjoy each other's company and sleep together. I am just very perplexed about this and wonder if I am wise to continue this relationship.