This suggests to me that you haven't actually resolved/repaired the rupture. When I had ruptures with ex-MC (one solvable, one not) and with current T (we worked through it), I often thought maybe I was over it, then realized I had to talk about it more because other stuff kept coming up. Like you said you're experiencing, other little conflicts. And difficulty with trust. So I found I just had to keep bringing it up and discussing it, even if it was weeks or months later. And even though I felt like it was probably frustrating to T (he said it wasn't--don't think I ever actually asked ex-MC).
So, keep talking about it. It may take time to figure out if you can really trust your T again. My T has said that working through ruptures (well, he says "conflicts") can ultimately make a relationship stronger (not just therapy, in outside life, too). I think this is true in some cases. But with ex-MC, with the final rupture, I found we just couldn't work through it, and I just couldn't trust him anymore or get the same feelings from him that I once did. I ultimately realized that we couldn't go back. With T, we were able to work through it. For me, I needed T to really understand what I was feeling (or at least to really try to understand and seem invested in that) and why. I think only time and talking about it--and how your T reacts to your talking about it--are what can determine if it's fixable.
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