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Old Apr 03, 2019, 02:39 PM
ArtleyWilkins ArtleyWilkins is offline
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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie View Post
What does this all mean? I can hold eye contact all day with people outside of therapy but with him......I can barely look at him unless it is during "normal" conversation. Is this a sign of something like feeling shame?
That was mostly the issue for me . . . the shame. Talking about the abuse and dark thoughts was talking about something I had kept hidden for a very, very long time. They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. Perhaps I feared my therapist would see more than I was ready to disclose. I found the more I shared and the more confidence I had, the easier the eye contact became. It took years though.