Maybe instead of having T's make your decisions for you, you could ask them for skills on doing them yourself. I think you would benefit way more with learning to do it on your own and feel good about it. It's something I struggled with for most of my life because my mom always made my decisions for me. Learning to do them on my own, even if they felt wrong or ended up not going well, has made me feel better about myself and my abilities.

Hopefully one of the two you see is a good match for you