((((fluff)))) I am so glad you mentioned "incremental". That is the exact word I was thinking of while reading your post. I have to go out on a limb & say that I think he COMPLETELY blew this one. After knowing your issues w/trust etc. and the fact that you were finally beginning to find some stability there with him, it seems cruel. Growth is slow and fluid. He could have offered himself the way he did when you desperately need it and THEN AFTER discussed some ways to keep it in place with "limits" This would have helped you find ways with his support to start "doing it on your own". Just knowing the support is there is more than 1/2 the battle. I have only called my t. one time in 2yrs., but knowing I could makes me feel safe and cared about.

I wish I had advice. I understand the dilemma you have. Either way, you get the same results. Have you mentioned having call privledges with limits to him? Told him that you'll do your very best to stay within the limits?