Women are not rehabilitation centers for badly raised men, or mentally ill men. It's not our job to fix, parent, raise, or change a man we date. Nope. That's HIS JOB.
I dated a bipolar guy who would try to hit me a lot. I broke up with him and he tried to emotionally guilt-trip me into taking him back. "Without you Blanche, I don't feel stable."
Just because he wants you back, Noms100, doesn't mean you are obligated to take him back. Break the cycle and stop getting back together with this guy. He is an adult. His problems are his problems, NOT YOURS. You are not responsible for his well-being. Repeat that to yourself until you believe it.
At the end of the day, it's about having strong interpersonal boundaries with people. Just because he has problems, doesn't mean it's your job to fix him.
Set the boundary of breaking up with him and stick with it. Block him from every social media platform you have, as sarahsweets suggested. Block him from your cellphone.
You won't get rid of him unless you really want to. No one can do it for you. You have to decide, if this is how you want to live your life; put your life second to his. If not, then take the steps to get him out of your life. Whatever he decides to do is up to him, and in no way is your problem. You can be a caring person, but you need to have boundaries. Boundaries are a good thing.
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