Oh Doomraven,

I read your last post with a heavy heart. I am so very sorry that you are suffering. I have more that I would like to say with regard to your situation but I want to check if it's okay? Which type of support are you seeking here? Do you prefer that we just listen or do you want ideas? Your last post sounded like you are resigned to this situation. May I comment further or would you rather just have a safe hug??

Just so you know, I used to be in a sexless marriage. It was excruciating. Not our only problem but he cut me off from sex entirely. Basically replaced me with porn. It was so hurtful and frustrating particularly because I never had an affair. For a long time i felt ugly and unwanted. My friends were not supportive because some people just don't seem to value sex in a marriage but it was really important to me.

You have my empathy.