Rhapsody,
For what it's worth, I think you make sense. I understand what you are saying. And you have made your point with diplomacy and grace. You're not attacking anyone, you're just explaining what it's like for many women in that situation.

A marraige counselor once told my wife and I to remember the 90/10 rule. 90% of what my wife says to me even if she uses 'you' statements is actually all about her, and only 10% is about me. Whenever I read anyone's comments here, I try to keep myself out of it because they don't know me--it's all about them and their hurt--it's not about me or my gender.

Your point is well-taken. Very educational.

Scott