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I dont have any advice but I'll vent with you. I have a small driveway and we have two young drivers and myself and my husband. We have a side yard directly in front of the driveway that we park in. My neighbor's house is set way back from the road and their driveway goes all the way past our house, yard (1/4 acre) to their house. For years (14) we have pulled in the end of their driveway and right up into our yard. We have used about 2 feet of their driveway. I babysat their son, he graduated with mine(he is 23 now) and one day a year ago in my mailbox I get this strongly worded letter about using the end of their driveway. They said we were damaging the gravel(holes were already there) and the wife said in particular we were upsetting the husband because someone was whipping out of their driveway when one of them was coming home.
Here's the thing: If she had spoken to me, I would have apologized and never used the driveway all these years. She never had anything to say about it and we are friendly enough. And she has my number as well, But she wrote this letter. I immediately ate crow and texted her an apology and told her I had no idea it bothered her. She was happy with that and thankful. Its her driveway and if it bothered her, its her right to want exclusive use of the end of her driveway. I certainly do not think it belongs to me or that I get to use it whenever I want. It was just the way she went about it that bothered me. When we moved here her son was 5. The boys are now 23. We have lived here for 15 years. It just shook me the way she handled it. I am not a confrontational person. I may say what is on my mind or have an opinion but I would never fight with my neighbors. Its not worth it to me. I mean, their fence is falling over into my backyard and I have dogs but the hell am I going to get nasty about it. On top of that we need to chainsaw the hell out of an apple tree that is leaning on it so its not all their fault. I do not like disagreements with neighbors so I avoid it if I can. I am sorry you are going through this. It really sucks.
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