Ahem, some psychologists seem to be just like you describe. I worked briefly for one who behaved in an identical way, i.e. domineering. It was the most extremely negative interactive experience in my life because either had to conform or be irrationally aggressed. Seems like they feel qualified to expound, and are intensely hostile to any attempt at humour or humanity - giggle, I tend to enjoy both.

I feel for you!

Perhaps the profession attracts certain rigid personality types.
You are doing everything that you can do. There is no point trying to deal with your feelings about this women any place except internally in my humble experience.

Perhaps others will have better ideas. The way that I keep myself on track with difficult personalities is to focus hard on what I can learn from the situation and let the rest flow over my head. Sometimes unexpected good things come from bad situations.