Hi golden_eve, I doubt that no one cares about your posts. There could be millions of reasons why no one has responded. I'm sure people will respond.

Feeling like the odd one out of a large social network that your fiance has, is totally normal. That married woman you mentioned - I would just ignore her stand-offish behavior b/c there's really no reason for you to worry about it.

It sounds like you already know the answer - just to be yourself. Eventually, your fiance's group will integrate you but that takes time. People are odd. They also may be reading cues from you that you don't accept them if you suddenly follow your fiance outside when he goes to smoke a cigarette, as you being stand-offish, even though you aren't; you just feel left out and feel intimidated b/c you're new to your fiance's big social network.

There is no right answer here. At least from what I can tell you're already doing what you are supposed to be doing; be yourself. But maybe instead of following your fiance outside when he goes to smoke a cigarette, just stay inside and circulate and talk to people. Remember, relationships take time to build. So, you have to be patient, and take it slow with all of those people. Some may remain acquaintances and some may become good friends. But you can't force them all to suddenly "like" you and accept you. If you get bad vibes from people like that married woman, then put them in the category of "not going to be their friend b/c they are rude to me."

I'm sure you'll be fine at that next big social gathering. Just relax. Let things happen naturally with your fiance's friends. Some of them will like you, and some won't. There's literally nothing you need to do here. You can't control what other people do. You can only control yourself.