Yes, and that may be the hardest part for you. Maybe you have to learn to be a little selfish. Dirty word, yes?

Awhile back I listened to some lectures by a psychiatrist who was talking about the Lou Gehrig syndrome; that those people whose self-abnegation was complete, who gave everything they had to help others, were destined to succumb to sickness themselves.

I realize this is a little at odds with some philosophies, which advocate laying yourself down completely for other people and letting them walk all over you.