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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
Eve- I sometimes think that the newish girlfriend of they guy with his tight friends/couples is automatically on the outside because its new, female "competition". And yes, it really is about their insecurities. Many women assume that the new girl is going to flirt with their men and that their men will flirt with them and many times that happens when they think you are "prettier" than they are-even if you yourself do not feel that way. It reminds me of the old ideas that women are always competing for the attention of a man-even though I am not like that and you are not like that and maybe even most are not like that- I still think in cliquey groups women can be like that. I would say be yourself but you already are and as you said its still awkward. I would try hanging by your man in some circumstances but not to the point that he feels he cant be social with others. In situations where I have felt on the outs with women I always offer to help the female host helping setting/serving or cleaning up. Its work to host a gathering and sometimes being kind helps break down the ice.
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Thanks, Sarah! You make all valid points about women and how they can be. With the one woman who is not so friendly, I kind of pick up on something along those lines. It’s really weird.
I love your idea of offering to help! That would definitely break the ice a bit more.
I don’t follow my fiancé absolutely everywhere. There have been times when he’s talking to his friends and I’ve been talking to other people in the group. But you’re right.. I don’t want to cling or hold him back at all.
Thank you again!