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Originally Posted by lizardlady
Can I offer a slightly different perspective?
I see new members at PC talk about cliques here in situations where I don't see cliquish behavior. You say these people have known one another a long time. They are comfortable with each other as a result. Your the "new kid." How did you get comfortable here at PC? How did you get to know people and feel like you fit in? I see you interacting with people here a lot, giving good replies and support. Is there something you can take from that to apply to getting to know these people better? And at the same time let them get to know you better?
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Hi lizardlady! Thank you so much for your perspective! That's a really interesting point you make. I never found PC to be clique-ish myself, but after some time on here, I did get to know people and made some friends on here, just like anywhere I guess, right? But it did take a while... it was not immediate.
I think I need to remember that friendships take time to nurture and develop... getting to know people takes time... I need to remember this.
I'm also the kind of person who always want everyone to feel comfortable and welcome whenever I'm in a social situation. I go out of my way to make sure ppl feel included and not excluded. That's just how I am when I am in a group setting.
So I guess in part I am expecting this group to act like I do, or in particular, this one woman who seems to not like me or who is standoff-ish. I have to remember that not everyone is like that, or like me! LOL. How can I expect that, right?
Ty again! I really appreciate your kind comments about me, and your thoughts about my current situation.
