Good topic, thanks for posting

I can relate. My mother didn’t teach me how to take care of myself because “it doesn’t matter” (translated as I don’t matter..)

My early attempts at buying a very few clothes were punished ...

I was somewhat interested in clothes for a while.. but not in “fashion” - ugh at the “fashion police”

I used to wear a bit of make up sometimes
(But now I don’t.. allergies grrrr...)
(Although I could maybe use hypoallergenic blusher)

I find taking care of the bear painful...
(This isn’t helped by my extremely sensitive skin)

Like someone else suggested, maybe try one thing at a time...

Today I used soap rather than “cream” (prescribed) in the shower (bath) and it wasn’t as unpleasant

Hugs to you, this is tough for many of us with .... sub optimal ... “maternal units”