Hi Toughbird. Very gently and with great compassion I say this, but I think you have some deep self-esteem issues and lack self-respect. And my apologies. I really don't want to hurt your feelings by saying this!!! I read through the other thread you posted. If a guy (boyfriend - ex) told me I needed psychiatric help, to leave him alone and to not contact him, AFTER I had already pursued him all over a bar, I would NEVER contact that person again... not once, and out of sheer self-respect.

I don't know what emotional or mental health issues you may suffer from, and again, please forgive me for being forward with you, but it seems you need some professional help to figure out why you have this deep rooted need to pursue and pursue when you're told "no". When a man says no, he truly means that he doesn't want you to contact him again. It seems like you have an issue with boundaries and self-respect.

I would not continue to contact this man. I agree with the others that he is just simply being polite to you. I would instead seek the help of a therapist who can help you understand why you are doing this to yourself. Again, please forgive me for being so honest, I really don't want to hurt you by being upfront. But I feel you need to understand something that you're missing here.