It's understandable that you would feel this way toughbird. My last post was not about diagnosing you or even this guy that is confusing you. I wanted to focus more on how he responds to you and what that can mean so you "learn" from what you are experiencing with him. You can come to a realization of how some people are going to interact with you in ways that can let you know they are more introverted and private as people. This can mean they are not going to be receptive to how you interact and can be more forward with them.