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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
If you have to mention alcohol consumption that means THERE IS A PROBLEM. This man's real relationship that he seems to be powerless over is with his addiction to the Alcohol.
This man who is now 45 years old never learned how to grow up and take control of his life. When you are doing that FOR him, you are being an enabler and a codependent. There is NO true relationship when someone is already involved in a relationship with alcohol. His weekend off from you will most likely be that of cozying up with his alcohol and maybe his drinking buddies, HE WON'T miss you other then maybe you picking up after him and mothering him.
HE has to admit he has a problem and WANT to change that about himself, nothing YOU can do about it either. This weekend off, what are YOU going to do, sit and pout and vent about how you deserve a better partner? Yes, you do deserve a better partner but you are not going to have that until you rid yourself of this dead weight partner that insists on putting his relationship with alcohol before you. Go to an alanon meeting and sit and listen to others that had to learn this lesson and they will all tell you, "run" and get your own life while you are still young enough to find a healthier partner.
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Yes and it’s especially true since my own father is an alcoholic and it’s a trigger. I never told him it was a trigger for me. I should have. Does he think alcohol helps with libido? He usually drinks on the weekend all weekend Friday-Sunday. Then tells me “it’s a cultural thing” last week, he drank EVERYDAY..he recognized this was bad but yet he had a couple drinks on Saturday afternoon..then Sunday it’s an intimacy issue..but yeah your right, most likely all he will do this weekend as use it as a day to be a dead beat and drink some more..I’m not enabling his bad behavior..I have higher standards.