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I'm 29 going on 30 but have never lived with a partner. Right now, he has his own place and I give him money when he needs it for rent, groceries, bills, etc. He plans to move in with his parents to pay down some things when his lease is up while we decide when we want to move out together
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I had to reply again separately with regards to what you've said here. I'm sorry but he's unable to financially support himself now when you aren't even living with him you're helping him pay rent, groceries and stuff? You're already supporting him, and you haven't even moved in together. Whatever mistakes he's made to over burden himself is not something you want to go into a relationship with. It's just a bad idea all around. If someone is willing to burden their partner with financial issues even before they are living together or eventually married how does that set up the relationship in a way that will help the financially burdened get on their feet and figure out how to take care of their own finances?
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I understand where my family is coming from... they want me to be wise and make a good decision. I do trust myself and my partner, but they have a point. My partner, on the other hand, wants me to have equal responsibility and see what it's like to say this is my share of the rent.
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I'm sorry, but this is not at all fair to you. I'm going to assume you are financially stable enough to have your own bills taken care of, considering you're doing what you do to support him too. How is it logical that a clearly financially unstable person is suggesting that you have equal responsibility of things as if YOU are the one that has a questionable financial management situation? Why is he talking about equal responsibility when right now he is clearly showing he doesn't even know what it means to be responsible financially in the first place?
I invite you to stop and think about how backward that is.