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Originally Posted by Gymgirl71
Yes and it’s especially true since my own father is an alcoholic and it’s a trigger. I never told him it was a trigger for me. I should have. Does he think alcohol helps with libido? He usually drinks on the weekend all weekend Friday-Sunday. Then tells me “it’s a cultural thing” last week, he drank EVERYDAY..he recognized this was bad but yet he had a couple drinks on Saturday afternoon..then Sunday it’s an intimacy issue..but yeah your right, most likely all he will do this weekend as use it as a day to be a dead beat and drink some more..I’m not enabling his bad behavior..I have higher standards.
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The thing about alcoholism Gymgirl, is it's often used and escape from "self" and not being able to handle one's life challenges. Actually, it has been discovered that a lot of individuals who develop alcoholism and additions have been traumatized, often struggle with ptsd and use the alcohol as a way to escape and self medicate. Some of these individuals can be very insecure, have low self esteem and are secretly unhappy with themselves.
His telling you "it's a cultural thing", is a bunch of crap and instead it's more likely he learned how to escape through alcohol through his family and piers that also became alcoholics.